Too Busy? How to Change That

Too Busy? How to Change That

In leadership circles these days, it’s called “deselecting.” I love the concept. Personally, I have some magical thinking about time. I falsely believe that it’s endless, expanding to fit whatever I want to do or get done that day. And time after time, I run headlong...
Take Advantage of Turning Points

Take Advantage of Turning Points

My friends in AA talk about the “gift of desperation,” meaning hitting a point where things feel bad enough to be open to a solution. It’s the meat of the first of the 12 Steps, which is about admitting powerlessness. Taking advantage of that gift profoundly impacts...
Saying Yes to Help

Saying Yes to Help

My family and I just returned from four days of hiking out West in the beautiful, mountainous surroundings of Zion National Park. I never professed to be a hiker, and I have a serious aversion to heights, but my 22-year-old son put in a request, and it felt like the...
Appreciating Ourselves First

Appreciating Ourselves First

  I recently read a Harvard Business Review article from the dark ages of 2012 called, “Why Appreciation Matters So Much.” The author outlines some of the benefits of a culture of appreciation at work, including a sense of safety, better performing teams, and...
Freedom from Guilt and People-Pleasing

Freedom from Guilt and People-Pleasing

Intriguing question: what is one word that can free us? You might think it is love. Love is so powerful in lifting shame and sadness and loneliness, but that’s not the kind of freedom I’m referring to. Instead, I’m referring to the freedom to put aside others’...